Joking with your doctor friends about wanting to be with a rich partner so you don’t have to work silly shifts any more (but really, so you don’t have to worry about becoming baknrupt if you have to take time out for sick leave or burnout). Or wanting a house-husband/wife to do everything for you (but really so you can do your job without also having to do most of the housework, particularly if you are a woman).
But in reality having to be both of those people for yourself, because you are in charge of your own life, wherever the hell it is heading.
Single doctor culture is…
Staying past your shift whether it is to get the work done, do something a little extra mile, or to catch up with colleagues and then wondering on your late drive home whether you would be better at leaving if you had to optimize time with a significant other.
I feel this, too. Perhaps colleagues with kids or a partner are more focused on getting home in time, because the stakes are higher for them.
Single Doctor Culture is…
Trying to be honest with dates about the limitations of your work and lifestyle without sounding like a total downer.
Because the best way to attract people who accept you for you is to be the best version of yourself, but also being open about your life.
